There are many minority groups. What is a minority group? It’s more than just being a small percentage of a group of people in a country, and in fact being the smaller percentage is not needed. Women are considered a minority. A minority is a group of people who deal with more discrimination, unfair law practices, are targeted, and/or unfair punishment by a broken judicial system based on who they are. Within the United States, some more well-known minority groups are: Black Americans, Asian Americans, refugees, Native Americans, biracial people, poor Whites, Irish Americans in decades past, Italian Americans in decades past, Jewish Americans, gay people, and transgender people.
What many fail to recognise are the fact that adoptees are a minority class as well. Many adoptees fall into more than one minority category such as being both gay and an adoptee. The multibillion dollar adoption industry, which is loosely regulated and not credentialed, uses billions per year to portray an inaccurate image of perfection in the adoption system and with adoptees; often showing only young adoptee children. Many in society when given facts by adoptees, and even adoptive parents, don’t want to hear the problems with adoption and use ploys such as “you’re crazy” or “but that rarely happens”.
This isn’t just an American issue. It’s a global issue. Adoptees are a discriminated group of people whether or not non-adoptees want to believe it. My goal here is to educate those who do not know but want to know how adoptees are discriminated and what can they can do about it. Knowledge is power, and it’s important for all people, at least those who can comprehend English and read this, to know that being an adoptee in countries such as: Ireland, Canada, Australia, the United States, Spain, Greece, and many more means being discriminated. My goal here is to teach people that this discrimination is never needed nor should it be condoned. Yet, quite often it is condoned including by people in positions of power such as the editor in chief of the Democrat and Chronicle of Rochester who refuses to edit a June 21st, 2019 article claiming birthparent privacy, which after 19 years of research, and research by lawyers does not exist. According to him his journalists found evidence of it after about three days, yet he refuses to pass along this information that they found. I’ll stick with my nearly two decades of advocacy, years of research, and years of research by leaders of those of organisations of Unsealed Initiative, the Donaldson Adoption Institute, and others that it simply does not exist. Nor should any biological parent deserve privacy, the only exception being that a partner or spouse doesn’t find out incase they are abusive.
Adoptees are the only minority group who are discriminated but yet represent a huge diversity of people within the group through various economic levels, intellectual levels, race, ethnicities, language, national origin, religion, disability, and more.
How are adoptees discriminated? Mind you these are only about those adopted outside of their biological family.
- Denial of adoption records.
- Denial of original birth certificate
- Blamed for their own conception due to closed adoption, sealed records, sealed original birth certificates, and the act of adoption outside of a family.
- Denial of their heritage or heritages until Bennett Greenspan created the first ancestral DNA testing site, Family Tree DNA, and created it for adoptees. This applies to closed adoptees.
- Denial of biological family medical information, updated biological family medical information, and adoption agencies can decide not to pass it along, including life saving information, even if a biological mother or biological father wants to give it. This applies to closed adoptees.
- Denial of a passport depending on when they were adopted for US citizens who are adoptees.
- Denial of being able to legaly work, vote, and marry if adopted from overseas and their parents did not naturalise their adoption, yet they cannot naturalise themselves as adults. Why? I do not know other than it is an act of severe and damaging discrimination.
- Denial to know whose nose and eyes they have when they look in the mirror.
- Denial to know biological family members who are safe and kind.
- Losing decades with biological family members until found.
- Finding biological family members deceased, such as the man from Newfoundland, Canada who tragically and horrifically found his first mum the day after she died. The adoption industry and society refuses to acknowledge these tragedies and harrowing true stories that they cause.
- Unaware they are adopted.
- Racism by adoptive parents.
- Abuse by adoptive parents.
- Seen as something must be wrong with them because they are adopted. This is a stigma held still in some countries of the world, but not so much in North America.
What can you do to help end discrimination of adoptees?
- Do your research by interviewing well educated adoptees. We know adoption better than anybody else.
- Tell others about what you learn on this site.
- Educate yourself by reading books such as The Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier, A Hole in My Heart by Lorraine Dusky, and watching movies such as Philomena.
- Once educated, tell others.
- Write to Assembly members stating that birthparent privacy does not exist and that it is time to give adoptees their equality, and what that equality entails.
- Publish an article.
- Speaking out when you hear inaccuracies given about adoptees or adoption such as the myth that adoption saves babies from abortion.
Adoptees have been silenced for too long, and continue to be silenced. We are often told not to speak because we should be grateful for “being adopted” “not being aborted” “growing up in a better country” etc. We don’t want nor need others to speak for us, but we do need non-adoptees to be supportive of us whether you are somehow connected to adoption, such as having an adopted niece, or a best friend who is adopted, or you’re a kind adoptive parent, or if you have no known connection to adoption. That support is shown by advocating for us to be treated better, to receive our own records and own original birth certificate that belong to us, to end this horrible belief that adoptees deserve to be someone else’s secret as this puts blame on them for things they did not do, for reparations to be made for adoptees who were placed in abusive homes including enduring racism, and more.