18 Reasons Why I’m Officially Done Discussing Adoption Each for the 18 Years I Advocated and I’m Not Even Including The Years I Did From Ages 12 to 17.

So, this is an official goodbye. The last article you’ll see from me on this blog. The last adoption comment you’ll see online be it Facebook or Instagram. Why am I hanging up my hat?

1. I have taught people a lot. I pass on the torch to them to talk to other people online and to create their own blogs and articles about the need for adoptee rights and adoption reformation.
2. There is always something to talk about when it comes to adoption. Well, I know I have spoken about enough. I have articles published in newspapers, tons of articles on here, and thousands and thousands of comments online.
3. I gave every New York State Assemblymember a list of how to fix adoption in NYS, bills they can propose such as no longer sealing the original birth certificate, abolishing closed adoptions, etc and all that good stuff. I’m well aware some won’t care because they hate us adoptees and want us to be discriminated, cos if you don’t believe in equality then you hate us, like Glick who sure as shit shouldn’t be the department chair of the NYS Department of Education since she believes in discriminating adoptees, and there are students who are adoptees. I have one who replied saying she is looking over what I wrote as possible proposals for 2020.
4. I have an answer for almost everything. I’m not being cocky, at this point I can just copy and paste a resource to every person’s comment or question. Like I said, I’m done discussing adoption. I’m done writing about it, but copying and pasting a link that takes a mere few seconds when someone makes a comment such as “Jesus was adopted” isn’t a discussion, and if they reply to me I won’t be getting into any discussion with them. Believe what you want, I’m not here to be your fairy godmother of equality and common sense.
5. I accept the fact there will always be people who don’t want to learn.
6. I care about a lot of other things as well.
7. I have met a lot of great biological cousins and two biological aunts. I don’t want to them to think I’m anything less than extremely excited to know them and their kindness.
8. I’m tired of explaining myself whether it’s explaining I have great adoptive parents and wouldn’t be the person I am today if they hadn’t raised me, but still knowing change must be made or that there are various forms of adoption and that I actually support in family adoption if there’s total honesty. Again, I can just send someone a resource.
9. I am an extremely hilarious person at times, and I know some of that has been lost in so many serious conversations about adoption.
10. I said I’m done discussing adoption. I didn’t say I was done being an advocate. I still will be signing worthwhile petitions sent directly to those in Congress for changing from unsealing original birth certificates without a contact form and making the multibillion dollar adoption industry be made to pay for the forms and ancestral DNA test kits as they should do.
11. Yes, I realise in my final goodbye to discussing adoption I am discussing adoption.
12. My passion is writing, and adoptee rights and adoption reform is something I care about greatly. I feel that by permanently ending the discussions about adoption I am giving up control and giving it all to God. I am keenly interested in what will happen next.
13. I don’t have to be the one in control. I don’t have to be the one to always answer people’s comments and questions. There’s plenty of us. Others can answer, and I hope it’ll now be those who have looked up to me and have learnt from me. Although I think it’s a bit silly people looked up to me, but oh well.
14. Discussing adoption takes up a lot of my time. I have a lot of other things that need to get done.
15. Because sometimes not intervening is best. Some young mothers will still “choose” adoption for their babies no matter what family preservationists like myself say. I can still and still will read through comments and if I feel someone else is helping great. If I feel nobody is getting her to see the problems with adoption then she can deal with the consequences. Her consequences aren’t my problem. Same for adopters who don’t tell their adopted child he or she is adopted. I can warn you, but it’s the same concept, and if you refuse when others told you to don’t cry when the child you took care of permanently severs a relationship with you. Again, not my problem. I might, might leave one of my articles for them, but again that’s not a discussion, I’m not replying to their replies of my article, and I’m only doing it if nobody has answered them after a few days and only if I really care.
16. Because my power is taken bit by bit when I decide to answer comments such as just reading my Instagram now and hearing from a Black adoption agency employee that she doesn’t believe she is discriminating anyone by condoning and promoting closed adoption when I told her that as a Black woman coming from a discriminated group of people it’s revolting she chooses to promote discriminating others, and the fact that closed adoption blames the adoptee for the problems that led to them being adopted. I’m not getting into discussions or arguements with self-centered people who I believe will be in hell when they die for the bullshit they did here if they don’t truly repent, and who, frankly, don’t give two shits if you do explain things to them.
17. Because I have spoken enough.
18. Because I have informed law enforcement the dangers of adoption, and if they have any questions regarding an adopted child in a dangerous situation or want more detail on how adoption is linked to unsolved cold case homicides and high suicide rates in order to assist them with their jobs they will be the only people I will be giving an indepth answer to, and even then almost always I can just reference them my two articles on it.

 

 

I am interested to know what God is doing with me next as I hang up my hat.

We Are All Adopted by God, but Not Everyone Is An Adoptee.

I wrote previously two articles one discussing how God has nothing to do with infant adoption (of non-abused babies) and how Jesus’ life is not a comparison to modern adoption, and neither was Moses’. The problem is people think they know the Torah, or they think they know the Bible, and they don’t and when I say people I am actually referring more often to Jews and Christians.

We live in a society that is very much brainwashed by the adoption empire. The Devil always tries to make himself look good, and his evil deeds are in all types of places. While that may sound crazy to you, that adoption could be affliated with the Devil, the adoption empire is a multibillion dollar, uncredentialed, loosely regulated empire and the horrible myth of birthparent privacy and the discriminating act of sealing adoption records and sealing original birth certificates was all started by a psychopath named Georgia Tann, so yes the Devil has a hand in the adoption empire.

So how are people brainwashed? First, it’s important to know I am not judging people for being brainwashed. I am judging people who have the truth given to them and still refuse to learn; still refuse the knowledge. There are many topics we are all brainwashed by. We learn and unlearn and relearn.

I often educate people about the facts about adoption. The facts the adoption empire doesn’t want you to know. I recommend them books, blogs, medical research, and more. I often never get a response from them but from their egos. The problem with most people is that they are ego driven.

Quite often a response I get back after I say something like “let’s move from sealing original birth certificates” to “let’s give adoptive parents a certificate of adoption instead” or “adoptees are four times more likely to commit suicide” or “you don’t get to have an opinion on adoption if you are not adopted” and a million other quotes, quite often the response I get from people’s egos is:

Well, we are all adopted by God.

Yes, we are. We are all adopted by God. Even atheists are adopted by God. Yet, this doesn’t make you an adoptee.

*Being adopted by God does not seal your original birth certificate.

*Being adopted by God does not separate you from your brothers and sisters.

*Being adopted by God does not seal your adoption records.

*Being adopted by God does not deny you your first family medical information, including in life or death situations of you or your children.

*Being adopted by God does not deny you genetic research to find out if you’ll have a child with say cystic fibrosis like adoptees are denied in some states.

*Being adopted by God does not quadruple your chance of killing yourself.

*Being adopted by God does not extremely greatly increase your chance of anxiety and depression which nearly all adoptees have.

*Being adopted by God does not deny you to know your heritage like adoptees were before ancestry DNA testing.

“Christian” led adoption agencies will try this on expectant mothers in a crisis. These “Christian” harlatans will say that “we are all adopted by God” and try to justify that and try to compare it to being an adoptee raised in an adoptive family. It’s not the same.

(Research for this has been provided in previous articles or will be in future articles).

 

Jesus’ Life is Not a Comparison to Modern Adoption

I like watching reunion stories. I think natural parents who are afraid of having an open and honest reunion (meaning the adoptee can get to know her entire original family she had lost upon the adoption) should watch reunion youtube videos. However, one thing that makes me cringe watching some of these videos is “We’re all adopted. God adopts us all” and “Jesus was adopted” when referring to closed adoptions. It’s cringeworthy and furthermore it’s not a comparison to modern adoption practices. To say you’re adopted because God adopted you is equivalent to being an actual adoptee is condescending. For those who do not know the story of Christmas I’ll give you a brief run through. Mary, Jesus’ mother, was around fourteen or fifteen years old living in Judea -now modern day Israel- around two thousand years ago. She was in an arranged marriage with Joseph, a carpenter, who was around twenty-one years old. Both Mary and Joseph were Jewish. The Holy Spirit appeared to Mary and asked Mary if she was fine with being the Mother of God’s son and she said yes. Joseph was freaking out when he learned Mary was pregnant and Joseph was going to divorce her, which would have ostracised her from the community and her and her child (if they survived the birth) would have starved to death. Mind you in ancient Jewish times that happened to rape victims as well. An angel Gabriel appeared to Joseph and told him to relax. The child inside of Mary’s womb was Jesus, the Son of God who was coming to save the people of the world. Now, Joseph married her and calmed down. Jesus was born in a manger (where we get the French word “manger” which means to eat, a direct reference to the Holy Communion), and I hope it wasn’t too painful giving birth. In fact, I always wondered how long she laboured for or if it was an easy birth since she had been touched by God and according to the Bible childbirth was the cause of the punishment of original sin and since Mary was pure….. (Sorry, tangent). Joseph raised Jesus as his own child. Joseph adopted Jesus as his own son and was his flesh and blood father on Earth. The only equivalent this Christmas story has is to modern step-parent adoption where an adoptee knows his natural father but is adopted by, and raised by, a step- father. Jesus knew his heritage. Jesus knew his blood line. Jesus knew his natural parents (Mary and God). Jesus was not separated from his biological family. Jesus didn’t have his true parentage hidden from him. Jesus knew he was a Jew. Things taken from many adoptees.