LGBT Adoption Agencies are not LGBT Friendly

It’s 2023, I wrote an article similar to this in I believe 2021, and nothing has changed. I’m not naming names, although I could of a certain self proclaiming LGBT adoption agency located in western New York. I have written this adoption agency numerous times on social media platforms and on their website. On Facebook, I was immediately blocked by a manager and my message to him was professional. I took video evidence of me messaging them in their inbox fill out form on their website, a website full of lies and propaganda like all other adoption agency websites, dating it to late April of this year. They have never bothered to reply because they are choosing to not reply. I am more than happy to have investigative journalists at local news stations, such as WKBW, and The Buffalo News comb through my personal email account and even delve into my deleted emails to prove they never answered. I have nothing to hide and nothing in my emails that is that private it would embarrass me if shown. I wrote this to WKBW, WIVB, WGRZ I believe them too I cannot remember, and The Buffalo News and have yet to hear back from them.

So, you may ask what did I write to this false LGBT friendly adoption agency of Western New York? I asked them to show proof that they care about adopted people, especially adopted LGBTQ+ people:

1. Show me proof that you are telling people that open adoption is not legally enforceable
2. Show me proof that you are telling people the dangers of closed adoption and how it’s very discriminatory
3. Show me proof that you have advocated for unsealing original birth certificates prior to 2020 when they finally became unsealed in NYS
4. Show me proof that you are currently advocating for the unsealing of adoption records
5. Show me proof that you are telling people the birthparent privacy lie is just that, a lie, created by child serial killer Georgia Tann
6. Show me proof that you are addressing the fact that White, cisgender, heterosexual adopted people are 4 times more likely to die by suicide than the non adopted American population, and adopted people of color are 6 times more and LGBTQ+ adopted people are more likely to as well, with adopted LGBTQ+ people of color having it the worst
7. Show me proof that you are addressing the fact that there have been hundreds of adopted children murdered by their adopters and what are you doing as part of the adoption industry to make adoption safer and more ethical, and what are you doing to make sure those other adoption agencies and adoption attorneys who abysmally failed children are being brought to justice?
8. Show me proof that you are telling people on your website and on your social media that many LGBTQ+ adopted people are being rejected from their false forever loving households for being who they are, and show me proof what you as a so-called LGBTQ+ adoption agency are doing for LGBTQ + adopted people who have now lost two families, their biological family, for one reason or another, and their adoptive family for being LGBTQ+

The truth is they are ignoring me because they haven’t done any of this. They haven’t helped to make adoption ethical. They haven’t helped adopted people not be discriminated. They haven’t tried to make open adoptions legally enforceable. They haven’t mentioned the problems with adoption. They haven’t advocated for murdered adopted children, or adopted children resold on the internet, or the extraordinarily high rates of suicide among adopted people of color and LGBTQ+ adopted people, they haven’t mentioned birthparent privacy is a lie created by child serial killer Georgia Tann, they haven’t advocated for unsealing original birth certificates or adoption records, and they certainly haven’t helped LGBTQ+ adopted people rejected from their false forever loving adoptive households for being who they are.

No, this WNY adoption agency only cares about LGBTQ+ who want to adopt and who have adopted.

The only credit I will give them is that they have get togethers between adoptive parents, the children, and biological parents because they do encourage open adoptions to actually stay open. This is a lot, lot better than the numerous atrocities created by Catholic Charities, still it’s futile if they are not advocating legally for the abolishment of closed adoptions which are always unnecessary and dangerous, and the legal enforcement of open adoptions

When they were allowed to march in The Buffalo Pride parade it sent a strong message that only certain LGBTQ+ members in the Western New York area are valued and deserve equality

I would need to check the messages, but I may have also asked them what are they doing to help pass the US Adoptee Citizenship Act, to which that was also ignored because once again, the answer to that is; nothing

*I used the tags anti LGBT and anti LGBTQ to prove that this organization is actually anti LGBTQ because they are not helping all adopted people, like myself

Over 600,000 New Yorkers Need Your Help Now, Up Until Tuesday June 18th at 4pm.

Yes, right now over 600,000 New Yorkers need your help. This is a serious matter about achieving a huge step forward in equality for adoptees. For some adoptees and for some adoptees’ children, this is literally a matter of life and death.

We have been fighting for twenty years to unseal original birth certificates in a clean bill in the state of New York. Other states have tried and succeeded, and most others are still trying. The same goes for Canadian provinces. Some have passed the law, but they have passed dirty laws allowing some adoptees their original birth certificate but not others based on their birthday. Can you imagine not being allowed what’s rightfully yours because your birthday is just the day after the cut off?

Currently, no adoptee who was adopted in New York State is allowed their original birth certificate. If you’re new to my blog I need you to read this article I wrote just a few days ago.

https://exposingadoption.wordpress.com/2019/06/08/nys-bill-s3419-and-yes-im-back/

It doesn’t matter if you’re from NY or not. If you live in NYS or used to live in NYS that’s even better but it’s not a requirement.

Bill A5494 is the bill that is being proposed to bring a huge step forward in equality for adoptees. After twenty years, we have most of the Senate on board. We finally have a super majority of the Assembly as co-sponsors. Only a tiny handful are blocking this from becoming law. They do not want the truth exposed because the truth will expose corruption and unethical behaviour.

All we need you to do, and to do it this weekend or it’s too late, is to respectfully call Mr. Heastie, the Speaker of the House, at 518-455-3791 and tell his secretary that we have a super majority in the Assembly as cosponsors and that it’s time to put A5494 to a vote now.

If nobody picks up because it’s the weekend, please leave a voicemail.

 

Family Preservation in Buffalo, NY.

There are a few family preservation organisations here in the Buffalo, New York area serving primarily inner city residents. Of course, I do wish there were more opportunities for those outside of the city. Nevertheless, I am proud and excited to see yet another family preservation programme helping vulnerable Buffalo families. This is an astounding improvement from the terrible era of when Catholic Charities of Buffalo found every excuse in the book to take away a mother’s, or widowed father’s baby, and give those adoptees lifelong discrimination. I hate Catholic Charities with every fibre of my being and the “good” that they do for some can never replace the atrocities they have committed when it comes to tearing apart families and lifelong discrimination of adoptees.  Of course, they aren’t the only culprits. Now, to only see Adoption Star vanish.

Buffalonians are learning. They are learning the benefits of keeping families together and helping families. We are progressing here in Buffalo, New York and no longer allowing family shame to be the reason to lose babies to adoption. We are no longer looking the other way and claiming it’s not for us to get involved when cases of domestic violence occur. We are breaking the cycle of single motherhood.

Who is at the forefront of this change? Let’s take a look at some of them.

Mother Teresa Home- this Catholic run home for pregnant mothers and mothers of children until the age of three is located on Buffalo’s very rough east side. Formerly, a Polish and German area this area now serves to help primarily Black American mothers and their children, although mothers of all ethnicities live on the east side and come to Mother Teresa Home. Opened in August 2016, the Mother Teresa Home is run by Catholic nuns of the Buffalo diocese.  Here, adoption is not offered on the table.

Unfortunately, adoption is still offered at St. Gianna Pregnancy Outreach Center where the myth that adoption will save babies from abortion is believed. I just wrote them to tell them that adoption causes trauma to mother and child, separation with the biological family, and lifelong discrimination for adoptees and to please promote legal guardianship. Other activists can do their part in asking them to promote legal guardianship when family preservation is just impossible.

The Mother Teresa Home provides spiritual counselling, financial counselling, free daycare, parenting support, parenting courses, mental health counselling, domestic skills, finacial planning and financial skills, parental involvement when your child is school age, vocational training, a place for mothers and their babies to live for the first few years, finishing high school or obtaining a GED, assistance in landing an interview, and more.

The Mother Teresa Home is opened only to pregnant mothers and mothers of babies ages newborn to age three who have been evicted from their homes for getting pregnant or are for any other reason homeless. Ages 16 to 26 are welcome to stay for 18 months.

Buffalo Prenatal-Perinatal Network- Also serving in primarily Buffalo’s urban communities on the west side and east side of Buffalo, Buffalo Prenatal-Perinatal Network offers various programmes to keep families together. 80% of the mothers they serve are women of colour, as the east side is predominately Black American and the west side is predominately Latina American with a growing Southeast Asian immigration population, along with a small percentage of European American families still residing on what used to be a very Italian neighbourhood. They also service south Buffalo, a very Irish American community, Cheektowaga which is a predominately Black American and Polish American town, Lackawanna which is primarily a Muslim and Black American community, and parts of Tonawanda which is a very racially and economically diverse area, and parts of Hamburg which is a very economically diverse European American town. One great thing about the programme is that they remember the importance of fathers. Often fathers want to be involved, but are not shown how or are purposely neglected. The Responsible Fathers Initiative is their 13 week programme that teaches fathers, including young teenage fathers, parenting skills, discipline, being a nurturing father, earning a degree, and job training programmes in order to support their children. Basically, it teaches them how to be a man and a dad. Healthy Families NY teaches child abuse prevention, parenting, healthy choices for families, child development, and self sufficiency. The Community Health Worker Program helps mothers from the tender age of 14 to the age of 44 prevent future teenage pregnancies, prevent premature births, provide postpartum assistance, obtain health insurance, get food and clothing, provide immense support, and a place to live for moms and their children. They have been successfully helping low income families for five years. Of the 2,658 Buffalo and Buffalo suburban families they have assisted, half of the pregnancies of pregnant mothers they’ve cared for have had preterm or low birth rate babies, child abuse has decreased immensely, almost 100% of the babies have their immunisations, and CPS calls are rare. The organisation does well to remember that most of the young parents and low income parents they are assisting come from horrible childhoods themselves, or have escaped from domestic violence. In fact, all mothers in the programme are screened for drug abuse, depression, and domestic violence. Support is given to these women, without their babies and children being automatically given away to adoption.