The Indian chakra system has been in existence for thousands and thousands of years, first appearing in the Vedas. Of course, experts in the chakra system can tell you even more, but I have been studying and working with chakras for years now.
I’m only focusing for this article on the root chakra. The root chakra called the Muladhara is located at the base of the spine. Its colour is red.
Chakras need to be balanced. At times due to various causes, including and especially pre-verbal trauma such as circumcision, a traumatic birth, those who have survived a failed abortion, separation of biological mom and baby because of adoption, other forms of child abandonment in verbal years, baby shaken syndrome, and school yard bullying with parents saying “deal with it, toughen up”, and the schools as usually doing nothing about it, chakras can become unbalanced. An unbalanced chakra will be in excess or will be depleted. This can be assessed through a variety of means from intuition, to colour therapy, to sound therapy, to pendulum dowsing, and checking your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health.
Adoptees, and some may not want to admit this, have serious root chakra problems. I include myself in this. It isn’t our fault. It is because of the pre-verbal trauma. No matter what family you were raised in, and I realize things are exacerbated for those adoptees raised in horrible homes, of which there are many cases especially for adoptees of colour, the trauma of the initial separation is still there even if your biological mother was a vicious, violent psychopath.
Some women are terrible, vicious mothers who shouldn’t be allowed to have children but even in those cases of removing an infant for her or his safety a baby simply does not understand as he or she spent nine months in the womb of his mother and knows no difference. In fact, for the newborn it is the fourth trimester, and he sees himself as still part of his mom. Removing him now causes identity problems later. Of course, the vast majority of first mothers are not bad people at all. The majority of them had no choice, but were forced to do adoption or wanted an open adoption and didn’t know that most close. Still, no matter the reasoning for the adoption the root chakra is still damaged.
This is why it’s so imperative to teach people that babies are not blank slates.
The root chakra is about survival. A balanced root chakra is about feeling grounded, secure, having the optimal weight, and have a good gastrointestinal and elimination process. A balanced root chakra makes you feel like you have a purpose and a right to be here.
All adoptees grew in the uteruses of women and girls who were under extreme stress during the time of their pregnancies. This developmentally changes the growing preborn baby on the cellular level. This shows up later in a multitude of miserable coping mechanism methods in adoptees such as their disdain for money and trouble keeping money, weight control problems and overeating, higher rates of drug use, and anxiety problems. I’ve been dealing with all three, although the first two I am getting under control and the last I am using holistic means to do so. I am fortunate to never have had a drug problem, but don’t judge who do. As someone smartly mentioned, weed is not the gateway drug trauma is.
The truth is any adoptee who says “that’s you that’s not me” is lying. Why? Because when speaking of infant adoption it’s a pre-verbal trauma and therefore it is stored deep, deep, deep into the subconscious level of the brain. Therefore, the adoptee throughout life, will live life in survival mechanism. Even for a child adopted when older it’s still a traumatic event which is something society refuses to see. Allow me to explain.
A child is removed from an abusive biological household and placed somewhere else into, what hopefully is, a loving family. Let’s assume for simplicity’s sake that the child is raised in a loving adoptive home. Even then, he or she at the root chakra level has the trauma of the separation from the original household and original family members they were with. He or she still has the abandonment, neglect the original family caused that has now created a severe and irrevocable damage to the root chakra.
This can make many good and loving adoptive parents feel very guilty. Why is my child always sad? Why does my adult child have such bad anxiety? Why can’t they access their heritage was asked before the ancestral DNA sites became in existence. Remember, while today many adopters are jealous, immature, narcissistic brats in the past many adopting had no idea what really occurred, and thought they were doing everyone a favour, and adoption agencies lied to these parents and told them their child would rarely get curious about their adoption, maybe just on their birthday.
A unbalanced root chakra is seen with: rage, anxiety, depression, fear, insecurity, weak physical health, apathy, laziness, lack of motivation, anemia, low self esteem, constipation, overweight, underweight, insecure and unstable.
We see adoptees are often unstable with money and there is a survival mechanism around money, careers and adoptees. What is my scientific basis for this? Well, does there always need to be scientific basis? It is quite often seen in simply interacting with other adoptees. It is something that other adoptees have noticed as well, and brought to my attention.
With every adoptee trying to literally find themselves there becomes a disconnect with money in one of two ways.
Type A not enough: this is the adoptee who struggles financially, they go from job, to job to job to job not knowing exactly what they want to do. Part of this reason is because of a disconnect with their biological family to know their natural talents and have those finely tuned since childhood. They often can’t stay in one job because their minds are so preoccupied with finding themselves and finding answers they need that were wrongfully taken from them. Perhaps this adoptee also likely comes from a Christian home that taught them “money is the root of all evil” when in fact the proper sentencing is “love of money is the root of all evil”. The damaged root chakra causes a lack of security in the self and this therefore causes a lack of security involving money. You often see this with adoptees saying comments such as “I’m on disability” realizing or not realizing their physical, mental and emotional ailments are caused by adoptee trauma, “I don’t have the money”, “I’m broke” and so on and so forth.
These type of adoptees also believe everyone should do stuff for free. “We were all traumatized so we should all be helping each other for free”. You hear this comment time and time again. Whether it’s being a search angel or whatever it may be. Yet, a physical therapist who has also been injured himself isn’t going to go up to someone and say “yeah, I damaged my leg too so I guess you don’t have to pay me.” People absolutely should be paid for their services or a barter or trade should be done. I’ve had many people get mad that I now say you must pay me for my services if you want me to look for someone. I also am the only person who will require you to do necessary reading before I search for you. Many paid searchers won’t even look without a name and are demanding thousands. That’s not me. I’m certified at the masters level in tarot and have had adoptees tell me I should be offering my services for free or on a sliding scale. I was doing this myself too, selling myself short, giving information out for free and doing things for free until I learned it stemmed from a damaged root chakra which stems from the complexities of adoptee trauma.
And it needs to be said, no you’re not getting free service just because you’ve been traumatized and don’t assume you’re getting free service just because you’ve been traumatized. Offer payment, trade, or to do something in return. Maybe a free service once or twice in agreement that you will pay for other services later on.
Adoptees we must start being paid for our services, including what we teach others and yes I absolutely should have been and should be paid for this blog which is a wealth of factual information.
Why is it wrong to help someone? There is nothing wrong with helping someone, but it becomes a problem with several hours of a service are being taken advantage of or when people automatically assume it should be done for free. When you provide a service that is done too cheaply then it makes yourself look cheap and as if you’re not very good. I price my tarot readings at $45 to $55, which is very reasonable and shows that I do a good job. My readings are very detailed lasting an hour to 90 minutes long and include looking at the herbology, numerology, and colour of a card and how it relates to the person coming to a reading with me. Yet I had someone say they should be only $20, they should be on a sliding scale. Trust me, if I had said they are $20 I can guarantee fellow adoptees would still say I can’t afford that or it’s too much money. If you can’t afford something that only costs $20 you’ve got a problem, and that includes myself at times. If you simply don’t want to pay for something because you have no interest in it that’s different. And I don’t mean problems like your bank account being constantly hacked.
Then you have the other adoptees, and these are of a smaller minority. The overachiever, highly economically successful adoptees yet they too have a damaged root chakra. These are the adoptees with a plastered smile on their face, who will praise adoption and claim because of adoption they are who they are this day, when that is simply not true. These are the adoptees who become highly successful in their jobs. So what is the problem here? It is because that high level of achievement stems from feeling underrated and under appreciated as a child. It sometimes can stem from a damaging self belief in the Asian minority model myth. It can stem from not having a connection to roots, to the biological family, and feeling like they must really prove themselves in order to be accepted by their adoptive families, or by society. “I have to become the best of the best in order to prove and thank my adoptive parents that they love me so much and they did a good job”. Of course, there’s nothing wrong in being successful. I applaud it and encourage it, but there’s a severe problem with a minority myth model is upheld, when microaggressions towards adoptees are upheld, and when racial microaggressions are upheld by the adoptee because they feel they won’t fit or will be rejected.
It is time for adoptees, and anyone severely traumatized in childhood, verbal or pre-verbal, to speak up. Drown out the voices of those who claim “it was so long ago” or “get over it”. Make adoptees who don’t want to learn the truth that adoption has nothing to do with making a person successful uncomfortable. The truth will make people uncomfortable but that’s how people grow. Do what needs to be done for your root chakra to be balanced and healthy, and what that is will entirely depend on each person’s needs and desires. I’m not being paid for it, so it’s up to each and everyone of you to look up how to balance your root chakra and then go about doing it how you see best for your own self.
Exposing Adoption 